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When you join an online dating site to look for that special someone you’ll want to get things just right.

Unfortunately, it’s very easy to get things horribly wrong! And if you make any or all of the 3 common online dating mistakes you can end up alone and unhappy.

In the offline or real world, all communication is supported by body language. In fact, it’s thought that as much as 70% of communication is non-verbal. This is the subtle nuances that our subconscious is able to read from a face to face encounter.

When operating online, these inputs are not available which makes it important to get the verbal communication right.

Be confident but not aggressive

Be aware that any form of aggression will be an immediate turn off for most potential partners. There is a world of difference between being confident and being aggressive – and this goes for men and women. Aggression may be a trait associated with the sterotypical male but woman are equally capable of stepping over the line. Remember, you are not trying to close a business deal you are simply trying to make a friend and keep the relationship progressing at a slow but steady pace.

Be realistic – we are all flawed!

In this imperfect world, nobody is perfect. We are all flawed – and that includes you. Don’t set yourself up for disappointment by demanding perfection in others when you cannot offer it yourself. Decide which imperfections you can live with and which are intolerable to you. Be honest in your profile. If you cannot bear cigarette smoke, chances are a relationship with a smoker is going to be very brief. You can say what you mean in your profile – you don’t have to say it mean!

Honesty is essential

It can be very, very tempting to cover up imperfections with those harmless little white lies that everyone tells from time to time. This is dooming any potential relationship to failure. When you are found out in little lies you will not be trusted over the important issues. Trust is an essential for any relationship and trust is absent from a relationship built on lies and fabrications. Be honest from the beginning. Write your profile and make it interesting and honest. The truth has a horrible habit of coming out at the least opportune moment. You have been warned.

The 3 online dating mistakes to avoid? Being aggressive rather than confident. Demanding perfection when offering imperfection. Being less than honest about yourself, your attributes and your abilities.

Avoid making these mistakes and you will enjoy your online dating experiences.